What I Have Learned from the Gottmans: Where to Start?

On the heels of launching Roadmap for the Journey: A Gottman Workshop for Couples in Recovery, I wanted to reblog this post to thank the Gottmans and the Gottman Institute and honor their work.

Relationships: Notes From A Gottman Therapist


Okay, Let’s Start with the Research

John Gottman’s research on the longitudinal course of relationships began in 1972 when he and Bob Levenson  asked the question: What predicts divorce? At the time there were only six studies on divorce and none were at all helpful. John and Bob did not exactly have a vote of confidence from the academic and research community. John, a professor at the University of Washington, and Bob a professor at UC Berkeley, received much skepticism  with responses characterized by the question: “Social scientists can not predict individual behavior very well, how can you predict relationship behavior?” John and Bob’s research outcomes surprised even them; relationship behavior is predictable, they indeed found out what is associated with relationship breakdown and with relationship stability.

The three areas of John and Bob’s research involved: interactions, physiology, and perception. It turns out that each of these areas have significance…

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2 responses to “What I Have Learned from the Gottmans: Where to Start?

  1. I am grateful for the work you are putting into putting theory into practice when it comes to recovery relationships. This area has been skirted for too long, especially considering how many relationships might qualify as recovery relationships.
    I am pleased that you have begun couples weekends.
    The next question is when will therapist training in CARE become available?

    A soon to be therapist in Akron Ohio home of AA.

  2. Thanks Lynette, I appreciate the kind words. I am discussing with the Gottman Institute training curriculum for therapists and treatment programs for their staff. The model that is emerging (more will be revealed as it develops) is an option to include a one-day training for staff, then have staff assist at the two day workshop for hand o experience with the interventions. Clinical staff learn the model, how to rove and answer questions at the workshop when the couples do break out for the exercises, and facilitating the small (process) groups where couples talk about the exercises and how to apply them for their own couple recovery. This model can be used by individual therapists/counselors in sessions with individual couples, as well as in small group formats. We are developing training tools and materials. Stay tuned. BIG CONGRATS on the soon to be therapist part!

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